You're a Slut.

Hello,

Let's talk about something serious - really that's all I seem to be doing on this blog. 
I wanted to talk about being a slut. Don't click away just yet, this is not a blog post giving you My Top Ten Tips to be a Slut. I suppose really it doesn't just apply to the word slut either, apply whore, tramp (sexually), loose woman, floozy etc etc.

A slut my dictionary definition is a woman who has many sexual partners; promiscuous. 
This alone is a misogynistic definition that us GIRLS too throw around at each other so nonchalantly.
Only a woman can be a slut according to definition, a slut is (accurately phrased by Urban Dictionary) a woman with the morals of a man. It follows the lock and key theory. The theory that a key (penis) that can unlock many locks is a good key, but a lock (vagina) that can be opened by many keys is a bad lock. A man can simply do whatever he pleases with whoever he pleases but if a woman were to do this it's wrong? 

The double standards of society are still so in place it's horrifying. 
After almost a hundred years from receiving the vote you'd think we'd have made some more cultural progress, yet if women are anything but prim, proper and a pretty little virgin we are worthless. On the other hand if we are not well experienced, ready for our men, we are just as pointless too. The dreaded double ended sword.

Oh no, it does not end there. A woman does not even have to actually sleep with thirty-seven men to be acclaimed a slut, merely showing to much skin can earn her that title. It's like we want to pull the leashes on women feeling completely confident in whatever they're wearing yet men can parade around shirtless without anyone blinking an eyelid. This is not bashing men, but if men have the right to walk around half naked, then women should too without the restraint of being thought less of a good person for doing so.

Now, trying to make this small thing matter is hard because the word is used so naturally that by men AND women that it almost doesn't even matter anymore. Whether you regularly get called a slut, or if that is the last trait someone would associate with you, I think we need to set it in stone that this is NOT okay. Okay, so cheating and being promiscuous is not a good thing but it should not make you a slut  but a bad, horrible person. Furthermore, if as a society we want to frown upon such promiscuity, don't disregard men.

I personally feel that we should stop using this word.
Whether we're jokingly greeting our friends with "Hey slut" or "Boo you, whore" or in a screaming match because  that other woman touched your bae, stop using it. It is just as important for women not slam each other with this insults as it is for a man not to use them.
The human brain is an extraordinary thing; learn some new words.

It's little things, such as this, that is really stopping us from being equal.
We need to change our culture and habits, not just our laws.



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