You're a Slut.

Hello,

Let's talk about something serious - really that's all I seem to be doing on this blog. 
I wanted to talk about being a slut. Don't click away just yet, this is not a blog post giving you My Top Ten Tips to be a Slut. I suppose really it doesn't just apply to the word slut either, apply whore, tramp (sexually), loose woman, floozy etc etc.

A slut my dictionary definition is a woman who has many sexual partners; promiscuous. 
This alone is a misogynistic definition that us GIRLS too throw around at each other so nonchalantly.
Only a woman can be a slut according to definition, a slut is (accurately phrased by Urban Dictionary) a woman with the morals of a man. It follows the lock and key theory. The theory that a key (penis) that can unlock many locks is a good key, but a lock (vagina) that can be opened by many keys is a bad lock. A man can simply do whatever he pleases with whoever he pleases but if a woman were to do this it's wrong? 

The double standards of society are still so in place it's horrifying. 
After almost a hundred years from receiving the vote you'd think we'd have made some more cultural progress, yet if women are anything but prim, proper and a pretty little virgin we are worthless. On the other hand if we are not well experienced, ready for our men, we are just as pointless too. The dreaded double ended sword.

Oh no, it does not end there. A woman does not even have to actually sleep with thirty-seven men to be acclaimed a slut, merely showing to much skin can earn her that title. It's like we want to pull the leashes on women feeling completely confident in whatever they're wearing yet men can parade around shirtless without anyone blinking an eyelid. This is not bashing men, but if men have the right to walk around half naked, then women should too without the restraint of being thought less of a good person for doing so.

Now, trying to make this small thing matter is hard because the word is used so naturally that by men AND women that it almost doesn't even matter anymore. Whether you regularly get called a slut, or if that is the last trait someone would associate with you, I think we need to set it in stone that this is NOT okay. Okay, so cheating and being promiscuous is not a good thing but it should not make you a slut  but a bad, horrible person. Furthermore, if as a society we want to frown upon such promiscuity, don't disregard men.

I personally feel that we should stop using this word.
Whether we're jokingly greeting our friends with "Hey slut" or "Boo you, whore" or in a screaming match because  that other woman touched your bae, stop using it. It is just as important for women not slam each other with this insults as it is for a man not to use them.
The human brain is an extraordinary thing; learn some new words.

It's little things, such as this, that is really stopping us from being equal.
We need to change our culture and habits, not just our laws.



Humanity and Random Acts of Kindness

Hello,
Only the other day I was listening to the news and they were reporting about a young girl who had been missing for a month or so and after a finding a body in a lake near her house the police were now launching a murder inquiry. You're probably thinking, yes...and?
Well, that's the thing. How can we live in such a hopeless world where we take murders and rape allegations so in our stride? What a pessimistic species we are?

This really got me thinking, are we really that bad? Is the reason Aliens have never made contact with us because we are such a maliciously cynical race? In fact, if Aliens tapped into our Internet and saw the unequal civil stance of male or female, coloured or white. They saw the wars and conflict. They saw the abuse and lack of freedom. Well...I would want to visit here either!

It all sounds pretty awful, doesn't it?

However, I have a theory. I have a theory that we only take notice of the bad things because they're more interesting, they ring louder than good thing.

The bad things are a noisy minority.

I thought that I would write ten little things, reasons, why the world isn't all that bad. They're only small things, things that may happen in your everyday life; but the little things can really be quite wonderful!

1) I was trying to juggle the contents of my bag when I dropped my folder and notes, someone helped me pick them up.
2) My friend dropped a £10 note and not noticed, this person chased her down the road to give it her back.
3) I didn't have enough change for lunch, so someone borrowed me some money.
4) I was at work when the customer I was serving told me I had lipstick on my teeth so I didn't look like an idiot for the rest of my shift.
5) My friend lent me her own DVD despite the fact she'd known me about a day and I could've easily broken or stolen it.
6) My great grandma, who is rather frail, recently flew to Italy. On her return flight a young man gave his much more comfortable and roomy window seat to her.
7) My Nan was visiting my great-grandmother in hospital, on her way out a very busy person held the door open for her.
8) I was in the supermarket earlier this week, just to buy some Soya Milk and the man in front of myself with more items let me go in first in the queue.
9) In the hospital the other evening, the tea lady gave all my great grandmothers visitors - all four of them and my grandmother - a cup of tea despite the fact she was only obliged to serve my grandmother.
10) I've started a new college recently, and all my friends were in lessons or not in, I was on my own. However, this person I sort-of-but-not-really knew let me crash her friendship group. 


Feminism

Hello,
Originally, I was going to write a blog post about the latest on the fashion weeks. Because I enjoy fashion; not because I am a girl and that is what girls like. I like fashion because I feel it can express what words can't.
However, I feel like talking about something other that Dior or Armani or oh-mi-gosh the Versace! And that is feminism. 

You may have got washed up in the wave of the Emma Watson UN speech or possibly the back fire of an ignorant misogynistic man's Youtube video; but I want to explain why I am a Feminist. Although it shouldn't need justifying, I feeling like merely claiming that as a characteristic of myself suggests I am a man-loathing, socially unaccepted, cosmetic reject. I'm not. 

I am a Feminist.

I was always tall for my age. And until about 11 I thought that being tall was fine. What was wrong with it really? I didn't notice that people were short or tall or little or large. Male or female. I didn't have socially inflicted catagories.
You were you, and to be honest, little else mattered. Especially something that you can do little to change. I mean, I can't make myself shorter; maybe you can't make yourself taller. There shouldn't be a problem.
But at 11, my (short) dance teacher who I had visually outgrown mockingly told me that 'At least a boy will never be shorter than me', insinuating I'd need some luck to find one taller than me.
For years this was haunting. I grew envious of the girls who were shorter. In my mind, shorter = prettier. My confidence hit rock bottom and, to be quite honest, I blame sexism. 

A sexist society teaches that unless you look a certain way, behave a certain way; you are worthless. 
A man should be the dominant counterpart, and the woman merely a shadow. It's hard for a shorter man to shadow a taller woman.
 I can't imagine it being too reassuring for a man either; if you weren't athletic, tall and handsome. 

It took me five years to realize I don't have to prep myself for a man.
To realize I am not worthless if I don't have one.
To realize what the real problem was.

The problem isn't being too tall, too small, too big, too thin, too smart, too stupid, too perfect, or too ugly.
 The problem was the social constructs we live in.
The problem lay in the inequality of gender. 

Women can be strong without a male backbone.
We can be anything we want to be.

Now, I am a feminist.
And I want gender equality.

I don't want my little sisters to grow up thinking that they can never be or do something because they are a woman.
I don't want my little sisters to grow up and feel how I felt at 11; not good enough because they don't fit in to how a woman should be.
I don't want my little sisters to be subject to sexual harassment, then be accused of provoking that torture rather than persecuting the person behind. 

We are not girls or boys. 
Okay, biologically we're different.
But, biologically, we're all human.




The Breakfast Club



To begin this little coffee date (you have got your chosen beverage, right? No? Go get one please!) I'd like to apologize for being partially late to the party.
That's a metaphor.
The Party is a symbol my life. I am generally late to my 'life'. I literally haven't done anything fun or recreational in about two weeks and I've finally made room. Let us rejoice.


Now then, one of the reasons I've had no time is Sixth Form. A Levels are harder and more time consuming than I'd first thought — but other than that I've made friends. Well, like two, but still that grammatically requires the plural 'friends' whilst making me sound very slightly more popular. One of these lovely ladies, who may or may not be the nicest and loveliest person ever, loaned me The Breakfast Club.

If you know me in person you'd know I am an avid eighties movie fan. If you bring me a classic eighties movie and pizza we will be friends for ever. I'm that easy. And I literally thought this would be 'just another movie' that I thought was 'really good.' And it was really good. In fact, it was phenomenally good. But it left a lasting impression.

The whole movie revolves around these five teenagers stuck in detention on a saturday. Each of them couldn't be more different. Their was the brain, the criminal, the athlete, the princess and the basket case. All of which you could probably fit in, or relate to people at your school. At first they hate each other. They have nothing in common and priorities differ. But as the day drags they get to understand the other worlds and see that the lines are blurred when it comes to being the bad boy or social outcast; the sporty scholar or academic scholar. Despite the friendships made, they still feel that society is too strict for them to fall out of line and be friends out of The Breakfast Club.
That is sad.



What does it say about society that if a movie based 30 years ago is still applicable today?

It says that society hasn't changed half as much as we think it has.
It says that we still think people deserve to be labelled.
It says that we are unable to changed the constructs in place. The constructs that make us label ourselves. I mean, the most terrifying thing is it's almost a microcosm for the Divergent Universe. And, well, Divergent is a little more scary.

What I'm actually trying to say, is that we really need to start thinking about the society we live in and what we're putting into society. To make sure we aren't the ones laughing at someone because they don't belong, or they're trying too hard. To make sure we aren't constantly looking up to those who are 'popular' and remember we're all humans. Despite the amount of Facebook friends one has.

I hope this makes sense.
I doubt it did.
But my coffee has been drunk. So bye.








Tamed Hippy | #OOTD

GREETINGS FRIENDS
I hope you're all very well. I would be better but I have to go work! 
I'm only kidding, I actually quite like work.
But it does mean you have to obtain a certain dress code. A kind of casual-smart attire that we feel comfortable enough in. 

I really like simple clothing with one simple piece to dress the whole outfit up. Here I am obviously just wearing  a black cami top and grey (lilac undertone) jeans. Uber-simple and comfortable. 


 This Kimono literally is so airy and flowy and calm that I feel like a hippy.
But keeping the jeans and cami a little more form fitting it make the overall ensemble still look smart.
Also, the variety of pastel colours that are on this Kimono make it so easy to wear, regardless of the event you are wearing it to.

LINKS:
Kimono
Cami (it's Primark, but here is something similar)
Jeans


Is anyone else digging that whole Kimono vibe? 
Because I've literally bought three in the last month!

My Lazy Day Face



We all have those days.
Those days where you would much rather stay in your puppy-themed pj's, cuddled up watching Teen Wolf re-runs (or any applicable TV show. The Originals, Awkward or Once Upon a Time are also personal favourites). But alas, we have to venture outside our  humble room into the wilderness of our town. Our town that probably has human beings that we'd rather not bump into looking like a drowned hamster and closer to Keira Knightly running errands (a girl can hope, right?)
So, here is the make-up I'd use to mimic the appearance of more than 3 hours sleep and hopefully prevent scaring any villagers. 

 As you'll see as we go along, all these products are fairly cheap, as on 'I cannot be bothered' days I don't really want to be using all my rather expensive, 'best' make-up. 
This is the product just about everyone and there mother raves about. The Collection Lasting Perfection, in my opinion, is ideal for lazy days. It's very full coverage, this is good because I don't really want to wear a foundation. On lazy days the last thing I want to be doing is hauling foundation off later on, so keep it simple with just minimal concealer.
I dab this under the eyes and on any problem areas.
 This is the Accessorize blush in the shade Scandal and possibly one of my all time favourite blushes. It doubles up as a highlighter which adds a nice rosy glow on our face. I like to think it gives a nice healthy illusion, as if we hadn't spent the whole night drink hot chocolate and watching Netflix (#summer)
 Now for eyes, literally all I'm going to do is apply this mascara to my top and bottom lashes as applicable. Honestly, this is by far not my favourite mascara, and that's why Maybelline Big Eyes has resorted to lazy days. I also use the hazulnutty colour (most worn colour in the top picture) to fill in my eye brows, from the MUA Matte Palette.
Finally, I moisturise the lips with a little Vaseline. You can use any lip balm you really want to but Vaseline is cheap and leaves a nice natural shine. 
The Lipstick is Midnight Mauve from Maxfactor. It's a semi-sheer, purply-pink-y colour that kind of upgrades your simple face with out screaming I LOVE LIPSTICK AND WANT TO LOOK EDGY. 
Although we all do love lipstick.
Today is just not a statement lip day.
Sorry about that! 

What are your lazy day make-up essentials?

Skin Care | KP

Hey  lovelies,
So, Keratosis Pilaris sucks right?
You know, the big, red bumpy skin you get all over your arms, legs and maybe face?
Yeah, it sucks!
I have been suffering with KP since before I can remember, and #truthtime it's probably one of my biggest insecurities. I HATE getting my arms out because it looks as if something has attacked me... obviously my arms were too ugly to actually eat.
Now, like any other insecure teenage girl I took to Google to find away to banish this pathetic insecurity. This probably made things worst as I discovered it's NOT CURABLE!
It's genetic and will never completely go away.
HOWEVER,
You can treat KP. You can get the bumps gone and you can stop the red inflammation. Want to know how? Keep reading...

1) EXFOLIATE
This is key to get rid of all the dead skin your body hoards. Here is a link you should use to learn how to successfully exfoliate your body.



2) MOISTURIZE
KP is a lot of dry skin. But you can't just use any old moisturiser. Use moisturiser that contains UREA or Vitamins E, D or A. Preferably E as I've found that works best for me. Also, Aqueous cream - I'm not sure what it contains - was prescribed to be throughout childhood as my KP got so bad, but if your GP won't prescribe you NO FEAR, you can get it for under £5 on the highstreet. (WARNING: Though I suffer from eczema and have never experience irritation, some people have. Bare that in mind!)




3) SUN YOURSELF UP
Obviously there is boundries to how much you can sun it up, and don't forget sun cream, but the sun always helps to clear my KP up. Every holiday is when I feel most confident as my skin never looks as good as when I've spent the day on the beach

Hopefully, this is going to help you get your dream skin!
Lots of Love.



PROM 2014


Hey lovers, 

If any of you follow me on Twitter - which, by the way, you all should @RoaritsNat - you would know from the uncanny amount of exam stress tweets that I have finished high school. My school hosted a Summer Ball for all us leavers, which was just such a fun and hilarious night - one that I will carry with me forever. The friends that I have made in High School are friends that have changed the person I am, and who I will be, I will never forget them. Although I won't be staying with all these amazing people I think they deserve a shoutout for being so remarkably awesome over the last five years and you need to know how much I really love you guys.

Okay,

Cheese over.

Pictures:
















If you had a prom I hope you all had a lovely time and send me pictures. K bye, love you! 

Your Vegetarian Questions Answered

A year with no meat. Or fish. Or poultry.
Yes, I’m a vegetarian and have been for a year now.
I am quite proud, and it wasn’t the easiest thing to do. But as a vegetarian, we do get some really mundane questions that get quite annoying after about the millionth time being asked them. So I thought I’d answer some of the most commonly asked questions about my diet, for veggies to agree with, show to friends the second they ask one, or maybe to help someone decide if it’s a lifestyle change you want to make!
(Disclaimer: I am not forcing my diet on anyone, this is me just answering some questions. I am 100% okay with whatever you eat, it’s your body not mine).
1)    “You’re vegetarian, so you eat fish?”
NO. By far the most irritating question there is. VEGETARIANS DON’T EAT FISH. Pescatarians eat fish. If you’re a veggie who eats fish you’re really not defined a veggie. A vegetarian is someone who eats animal products but not animals. Fish, although marine, are animals. At least I define them as animals.
2)    “Was it hard? Like HOW do you live without bacon?”
Honestly, the first two-four weeks were really hard. Predominantly because I didn’t know what to eat, my family didn’t know what to cook me and everything was seemingly impossible. But I think that is just because old habits die hard and I had been eating it for fifteen years. If you’re a newbie and debating whether it’s all worth it, give it a month. The cravings will subiside.
As for bacon, yes it still smells good. So does other meaty things I don’t eat. But just because they smell good it doesn’t mean I want to eat them. It’s animal flesh, not oxygen. I can survive
3)    “Are you going to make your kids be veggie?”
When I wed Sebastian Stan, Nate Buzolic or Chace Crawford I plan to feed my children a strict vegan diet until they’re eighteen and can make their own decisions, whilst living in a small country house with 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms and a picket fence.

Sarcasm aside: I haven’t any kids, or a husband. I’ll decide when that stuff actually happens.
4)    “Are you healthy? I mean, you don’t get any protein or iron?”
Are you a nutritionist?
No?
Please be quiet then.
Any vegetarian can get any nutrients they need from foods other than animals. Granted, meats are notorious for their protein and iron etc. but we can be healthy and not eat them. If we do have a deficiency, just like meat-eaters, we can have supplements. To be honest, just like with any diet you have to watch what you eat and have the right stuff.
5)    “Do you mind me eating in front of you?”
No. Seriously, you don’t need an excuse or alibi. I am not going to lecture you about the process of killing cows. I may not personally agree with the animal food industry but it’s my choice to not eat meat. Not yours. So take your hamburger and eat it.
6)    “Why?”
I read an article about how vegetarianism was a healthier way of life, but I really didn't want to give up meat when I knew I could live a healthy life eating meat. However it did get me curious and then I read more articles… more about how they killed the animals etc.
I was always an animal lover, and after reading that I just couldn't understand how I could love a dog so much but eat a lamb so nonchalantly.
7)    “What do you even eat?”
Anything without meat. It isn't hard. There are many substitutes, like Quorn. Ever head of vegetables? Meat isn't in everything. I think the thing I miss most though is Jelly (jello), damn you gelatin!
8)    “Have you lost any weight?”
Awkward question. Yes, but I don’t really think that is because of being veggie.
9)    “What was the last meat thing you ate?”
McDonalds chicken nuggets. Not the worst way to go!

There we go, if you have any more questions leave them below or tweet me and I’ll get back to you.


Fun veggie pictures:





Last Minute Revision Tips



We've all been there.
You've left all your studying to the very last minute and you don't know how to heck you're going to cram all that information into your brain. I'm here to help!
P.S. I'm not going to tell you no to leave it to the last minute, we all know that tips is a lost cause!

1) Get into a sleeping routine
Seriously, you'd be surprised at how much more awake and focused you feel if you've had a good nights sleep. Also, waking up that little bit earlier could mean you eating some of that vital knowledge that is bound to be the big question of the paper. 
HOW?
a) 10PM is the latest you can be awake. No, seriously guys. You're body needs at least 8 hours sleep to function of a good day, without exam stress. Ideally aim to be asleep by 10. This requires all gadgets and gizmos off by about 9PM, then chill out with a book or a magazine in bed, until you're pretty  sure you can drift off. AVOID caffeine after 5 o'clock, that stuff screws up your sleeping pattern like no other!
b) Wake up at a set time each morning, and don't sleep in on weekends. It gets easier once your body is in a routine, depending on when your school opens, set your alarm.
 Don't you dare get back into bed. That defeats the object.You need to be productive. With this extra time you could do some cramming, or exercise to get your blood flowing and body awake, or maybe just chill and watch some TV or Youtube to get your mind off that two hour exam you have. 



2) Plan what your doing
"Okay, so from 4:30-5:30 I want to do English.
Then from 5:30-7:00 I want to do History.
From 7:00-9:00 I want to do Math"

We've all said that we're going to revise all night, in reality we end up watching Friends for three hours and scrolling down to the very first video of every Youtuber ever. 
My advice, plan realistically and EXACTLY what you are doing. You're not going to withstand three hours of self-inflicted Math, no-one can. So, take it easy. Do what you know you can, and you know that you need to know. This way you won't feel disheartened when you don't do everything you wanted, too. 


3) TAKE A BREAK. HAVE A KITKAT
Okay, so eating eight kitkats a day is something that my doctor would probably shake her head at, but you need to chill. 
Your brain needs to relax and unwind so it can process the information that it going in and hopefully retain it, otherwise it will probably go in one ear and come out another. 
After a 10- 45 minute break you can also test yourself on what you thought you'd learned. Its been proven
 that being able to recall without help is one of the best methods of properly retaining information. 
So, put ya' feet up love, have a cuppa' tea; then test yourself seriously. 


4) REVISION PLAYLISTS 
Revision playlists are like Marmite. 
They either work for you, or they don't.
For me, they help me chill and make last-minute cramming a little more fun and helps to actually focused and awake. Some of my personal study listens are Ed Sheeran's +, Bastille, Imagine Dragons and He is We. 
BUT, these do come with a few health warnings.
1) Nothing jumpy or bouncy or dancy. I think these lead to more in distraction than studying.
2) Not to loud. There is a reason why Libraries are silent.
3) If you aren't retaining the information, turn it off. You DO need to study, and if you have to forfit some study fun, it'll be worth it!

5) TAKE A CHILL PILL
Stressing isn't worth it. 
It'll work you up to the point you'll barely be able to speak coherently. If you feel like you're too stressy, pull back, have some ice cream and don't think about it for a few hours.
You're going to do better if you don't stress. You'll end up thinking more about what you don't know than what you do know, and that will NEVER be beneficial for any one. 



I hope these were helpful, and hopefully on Monday I'll be back with a more beauty-type post :)
Nat xoxo

Summer/Spring Style Inspo

Winter is brilliant.
 No, really it is. Fluffy jumpers and red lipstick, what more could a girl want from a season? A few months to hide away in baggy clothing and wooly tights, all for the sake of “warmth” and well, fashion.
NEWSFLASH, it’s time to put the snowflake sweater away for a few months and show some skin… BABY IT’S SUMMER 2014.
Yep, it’s true. Summer has rolled around, I know its hard to believe for all us British gals’ still feeling the need to adapt to the cold weather with jumpers and jeans, but bottom line is, we’re going to get that sunshine spurt, and we need to be ready.
Now, I don’t think we can regard ourselves as fashionably on point in the summer, compared to winter, predominantly because we’re not entirely use to have the impetus to wear summer clothes; the lack of sunshine and all that. I think we all want to avoid our bum cheeks hanging our of a pair of Primark shorts we bought three years ago, (there's no point buying new ones considering we'll only have like a week of sun. You savvy devil you).

So let’s take some inspiration of the summer styled elite, who apparently are little better adjusted to the summer weather.

 Is there ever a season when Alexa Chung isn't on point? In fact, is there ever season you can't rock denim?
I think not. Denim is always, or at least for the most part in, and it is big this season. Like last year, we have the twists like dungarees and skirts, as well as the classic jeans and shorts.
I particularly like Chung's outfit for those awkward weather days where it is unacceptable to wear too much clothing, but not desirable to be showcasing those 'milk bottle' legs. The dungarees cover what need to be covered, and the shirt also gives a little more coverage too, whilst giving dues to Chung's natural vintage flair.
Also, the wedge? Okay, they add that feminine touch to those shapeless dungarees, but THEY'RE huge this year! Lets all pay our respects to the Duchess of Cambridge for bringing the wedge in this is season, they're so much easier to walk in than average heals AND give us height. 


I think we can conclude that Vanessa Hudgens floral game has improved just a bit since the days of HSM, yes?
Floral, I think, is a staple throughout any summer or spring. I personally prefer bigger floral prints like these as they look a little less like your Gran's curtains wrapped around your body. But, I do particularly enjoy this floral piece. It's modest -keep it classy ladies - with cut outs that add to that sexy summer look we all (secretly) want. AND, are those wedge I see right there? hmmm...


I'm not sure who this is, other than she has got some serious style. 
A Coachella girl showcases her all black pride. I think when going all black, especially in summer, it is best to show a little more skin (with maybe a bit more of a tan?) so we don't look a wicked witch. Black is so classy and such a flattering colour so in the words of Made in Chelsea's Victoria,

"I'll stop wearing black when they make a darker colour,"

The hat and beachy, loose curls add that effortless summer theme we call love, and we can still enjoy our little black booties. I love this outfit!

So, who are some of your summer style icons? Or what trends are you guys particularly bothered about rocking this season?

Love Nat xoxo

Live for Yourself

“Life’s too short to be anything but happy,” – Anon
That, right there, is a concept that took me far too long to grasp.
For the predominant part of life I wanted to be the people pleaser. So that when people would talk about be it would be ‘Oh yeah, that’s Nat. She’s really nice.’
But since when did we live to earn each other’s approval? Why should we eat ourselves up because we fear that we’ll provoke the tenderness of someone’s opinion on us? Why are too many people afraid to be themselves and bask in all their self glory and worth?
I don’t live for you, I live for me.
You’re only ever going to see the work through your eyes, no matter how hard you try. Someone else’s perception of you or their world is so unimportant that it should never dim or dampen what you want to do or be.
Just think, think hard, of just a small three things that you have never done because you were afraid of what someone would say, or the whispers in the corridors if people found out. Whether it be blogging, vlogging, writing poetry or entering that art competition, singing in a musical or dancing in public, doing that stand up comedy, wearing that dress that everyone hates or those shoes that are SO last year.
NOW, write those three things down. However pretentious or hilarious, write them down and hold them close. Put that list somewhere safe (just not too safe that you forget where). By the end of this year, you NEED to have done all three. Or at least started.
Don’t let your light be dimmed just because someone else’s doesn't shine as bright.
And, as cringy and borderline blasphemy, YOLO. It IS your life to live as you wish, regardless of anyone else, so live it!

Some quotes to help you on your way: